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today i feel
i want to feel
frustrated.
energized.
lost.
powerful.
uncertain.
connected.
confused.
joyful.
lonely.
grateful.
sad.
loved.
angry.
free.
shameful.
happy.
anxious.
focused.
worried.
energized.
These are the two most important questions you can ask yourself:
How am I feeling?
What do I need?
It’s okay to not know the answer to these questions. Most people don’t. That’s what Family Dynamics is here for.
It’s okay to not know the answer to these questions. Most people don’t. That’s what Family Dynamics is here for.
Your life hasn’t been playing out by chance. It’s a result of your family dynamics. And you have the power to rewrite the script.
Have you ever wondered how you’ve gotten to where you are?
Whether it’s external - a career you don’t recognize, a relationship you don’t enjoy, a friend group that feels toxic - or internal - you are quick to anger, inexplicably tired all the time, unmotivated - you feel like at some point you reached a fork in the road and took the wrong turn. And now you don’t know how to turn it around.
You don’t have to continue living life on autopilot. It’s time to take charge and transform your life.
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“Healing begins when someone bears witness.”
—law & order
"And what is as important as knowledge?" asked the mind. "Caring and seeing with the heart," answered the soul.”
—flavia
“Our way is not soft grass; it’s a mountain path with lots of rocks. But it goes upwards, forward, toward the sun.”
—Ruth Westheimer
“Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.”
—Lao Tzu
“Don't turn away. Keep your gaze on the bandaged place. That's where the light enters you.”
—rumi
“We deal with our sh*t, or it deals with us.”
—Carl Jung, kind of
What Are Family Dynamics?
As a licensed MFT with over 35 years of experience, I have witnessed just how much of our family dynamics influence the trajectory of our lives.
Every person has their own unique story - think of it like a fingerprint. Part of it is made up from your history (genetics & born-family). Part of it comes from how you were raised (code of behavior, traditions). And part of it comes from your life experiences (how family treats you vs. others, observation of parental and guardian interactions, etc.)
Mix those parts together, and you have a unique story that is going to tell you exactly how you got to where you are today.
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“Valerie is the most honest, empathetic, and compassionate person I know. My life is so much better today thanks to her belief in me when I did not believe in myself. She has always been there for me and responds whenever I reached out. I cant imagine where I would be today without her help. I thank you a million times over.”
- JUNE M.
I can’t recommend Val highly enough! Her tools and advice have been true lifesavers. Val is incredibly intuitive, fair-minded, and adept at handling even the toughest personalities—including me! She has a remarkable ability to be honest and hold you accountable, but she does it in a way that empowers you to learn and grow. Rather than simply providing answers, Val teaches you how to “fish,” equipping you with the skills and mindset to navigate challenges independently. While her deep experience makes her insights invaluable, it’s her ability to guide you toward self-reliance that sets her apart. She has been a trusted partner for many years, even through long breaks between “events.” Our conversations are often challenging, but I always leave feeling better, with a clear action plan and renewed hope. Val’s professionalism, wisdom, and compassion are unmatched. Highly recommend her—she’s one of a kind!
- G.C.
I have known Valerie and worked with her for 2 years. She has helped me navigate through everything from work situations to family dynamics. She doesn’t give me the solutions, she guides me through the process of finding the best solution. She is kind and caring and has a true passion for helping people! I would recommend Valerie to anyone who is truly looking to improve their life…she is the best!
- L.H.
Working with Valerie has been one of the most empowering experiences of my life. From the very beginning, she shared her wisdom with a calm confidence that immediately made me feel grounded—even in the middle of emotional chaos. What truly sets Valerie apart is her ability to not only guide you through the most challenging moments, but to build your own confidence along the way. She makes sure you know that one day, you will be able to handle these situations on your own.
- R. J. A.
Valerie has seen every play in the book—nothing surprises her—and she always has insightful, practical advice to offer. She's quick on her feet, sharp in her thinking, and has never once been without a solution to any problem or roadblock we've encountered. Whether it's strategy, communication, or emotional support, she’s always one step ahead.
One of the things I appreciate most about her is how she encourages you to celebrate the wins, no matter how small. That gentle reminder to pause and acknowledge progress helped me stay motivated and hopeful, even on the hardest days.
Valerie is a constant presence—month after month, year after year, time after time. She shows up, she listens, and she delivers. I truly don’t know where I’d be without her.